Tools to help with your relationship

"Betsy's communication tools are deceptively simple, and profoundly effective"

––Dr. John Grohol, Psych Central

Express Yourself Cards

Each of the card templates helps you clarify your thoughts and feelings and express them better than you ever dreamed was possible.

A-B Conversations

A structured way to talk about tough topics so you both feel heard, and nobody gets hurt.

The Stop Strategy

A time-out strategy that helps you stop talking before you hurt each other, and cool off before trying again.

Love Bites

A positive way to learn how to ask for, give, and receive acts of kindness, service, and affection. Make it a weekly ritual to exchange Love Bites and fulfill each other's request.

Changing Ourselves for the Better

A simple, step-by-step guide for couples that helps you change bad habits by each creating––and then working on––your own, easy-to-follow action plans.

Celebration Walks

Managing Moods

A great way to use your whole body to celebrate positive experiences and make them last longer.

Dip-shifting Technique

A fast way to keep a dip from turning into a dive. Learn to recognize, interrupt, and disengage from anxious, disabling thoughts, and redirect your attention elsewhere.

No Looping Zone Poster

Put up this poster on wall or mirror. Use it to check in with yourself so you can Dip-shift your way out of a worrying loop before it takes over.

Reviews

Betsy Sansby Online Relationship Coach

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"The reason Betsy is so effective is because of the tools she has developed that couples can learn to use on their own. These tools are simple and intuitive yet make a big impact."

Client A.S.

“I was first introduced to Betsy's tools years ago, and while they were great then, they have evolved into something even better now. They provide a safe and effective way to to express your thoughts and feelings in a clear and concise manner, without all the "mud" that usually accompanies this type of emotional communication.”

Client N.H.

"Betsy’s approach and practical tools make us better communicators who strive for kindness and good boundaries with each other. She introduces and guides us through the tools and the process, then it’s up to us to do the work.”

Client S.H.

“Betsy’s Express Yourself Cards have become a vital tool. Using the cards is like having a tiny Betsy in your pocket, ready at any time to help us more effectively (and less stressfully) process then communicate our emotions/ feelings / needs / etc.”.

Client R.M.

“When I hand clients Betsy’s cards, the first thing they say is, “We need more of these. People get it right away why these tools are so helpful. They can see in black and white how off their communication has been and what they need to do to help things go better.”

Joan Pechauer, LICSW

"Over time, you learn how to phrase these things yourself without having to use the cards — it's like a shortcut to more emotional honesty and less arguing."

Client A.S.

"By far my favorite tool is "Changing Ourselves for the Better," where both partners work in a structured way to identify their own weak spots, check in with each other about them, and choose together which ones they will work on. It works because it's mutual: you both make a commitment to improve in a key area, and it feels safe even though you're being vulnerable.”

Client A.S.

“...Most profoundly, Betsy was able to equip me with the tools necessary to plan for a happy, choice-filled future.

Client C.V.

“I was first introduced to Betsy's tools years ago, and while they were great then, they have evolved into something even better now. They provide a safe and effective way to to express your thoughts and feelings in a clear and concise manner, without all the "mud" that usually accompanies this type of emotional communication.

Client A.S.

“In over 20 years of doing therapy, Betsy’s communication tools are among my favorite tools to share with clients.”

Joan Pechauer, LICSW

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